I've been thinking about these little figurines a lot lately. First, because they're adorable and I love the handcrafted uniqueness of them. But it's also because of the visual metaphor that's been explored countless times before: inside each of the dolls is an identical but smaller version of itself. (The comparison is also made with onions - the matryoshka are so much more beautiful!) Every time you open up a doll, the doll you find inside is exactly the same, only smaller.
When comparing the metaphor of the matryoshka to weight loss, an article I read a few months ago from MSNBC came to mind. In the article, several people who have lost significant amounts of weight are profiled, and their general opinion is that, while weight loss has significant health benefits, there are a lot of things in their lives that were unaffected by their new bodies:
... a funny thing happened on the way to becoming a size 8: No matter how much (Jen) Larsen shrank, her troubles stayed the same size.A dietician interviewed for the article refers to this as "the lottery effect." People who play the lottery tend to see winning as a cure-all: if only they hit the big jackpot, all their problems would go away. Winning may take care of some of the issues, but not everything. And weight loss is exactly the same way.
"It (weight loss) hasn't solved all my problems or made me a better person, just a littler one," Larsen says.
Despite being a self-described "accomplished fat girl," with a master's degree in creative writing from the University of San Francisco, a great job working in the school's academic library, a slew of friends and a loving boyfriend, Larsen thought her life had hit a plateau. By age 32, she believed she'd be writing a book, "doing something important," she says. The only thing holding her back, she thought, was weight.
"Not so," she now says. "The only thing that's different is the size of my a**."
As I slowly but surely lose my way down to my long-term goal weight, I need to keep this in mind. Losing the weight is only half of my battle. No matter how small the matryoshka is, she's still essentially the same girl she was when she was at her biggest. There are so many other problems I need to work on that won't be magically cured when I lose fifty, a hundred, two hundred pounds.
For example, my shyness. The social anxieties I've developed as a result of my obesity have been in place for so long. I honestly can't say how I'll feel two hundred pounds from now (or even just two pounds from now), but I know that in the past, weight loss has brought good intentions to go out, but my efforts to try to be a sociable person were always hindered by my fears that I had not yet lost enough weight to be taken seriously. So I would go out with guys who treated me poorly, who would manipulate my weaknesses to their benefit, and who knew they could get away with it because I was so fat that I must be simply grateful for their time. And it was true. I let myself be mistreated because I thought it was better than being alone. And of course, I always ended up hurt - consoling myself meant bingeing - and the cycle would begin again.
I've often wondered if I'll ever lose enough weight to feel totally comfortable being myself, or to finally date good, honest, well-meaning guys. So now, as I finally commit to lose weight for good and to take control of my life, I'm so grateful that weight loss takes a long time - as nice as it seems it would be to "hit the jackpot" and be magically cured, I truly need this time to learn how to love myself and how to be a person who is open to love and able to trust.